When someone leaves you and you still love that person, it is extremely difficult to get over them. And it’s even worse when they leave you without giving a reason. It makes you feel like you must have done something wrong and that is not always the case. I think I can say that most of us have been through this, if not once but several times. Time is a healer. It takes time to work through it and some people take longer than others. You feel so all alone, even though you really aren’t. But no one else can ease your pain, they can just be there for you to support you through it. One thing that helped me was when I finally forgave him and myself. I came to the realization that he moved on and didn’t care about how I was feeling. He made the choice to leave. Why was I still thinking about him like a fool? I was only destroying myself while he moved on enjoying himself. We can’t lose ourselves while we are going through painful times. That other person could care less about you and you are letting them destroy your very soul.
It helps to look at it from a different perspective. Like, how can I continue to love someone who HURT ME the way they did? They don’t deserve my love! Also, don’t carry the guilt about things you couldn’t change.
All we can do is learn from it. Search yourself and only change the parts of you that you know need improvement. But don’t change who you really are deep down inside. Don’t let anger and bitterness eat you up and destroy you. It’s not easy. We do have to go through the cycle of pain, hurt, blame, guilt, anger, resentment, bitterness and the list goes on. Just don’t dwell on those feelings for too long. Because you will never be able to love again and you are worthy of being loved again. You may even turn away from something that could have been good for you because you weren’t ready. You want to be ready! I lost out on two other possibilities while I was still messed up. Holding on too long to my emotions cost me something that I do know today would have been great. Take your time to heal, but don’t prolong the healing process. Remember every day that goes by, you can never get back. Don’t take off years of your life just because of one man or woman who did you wrong. Get through it, learn from it and let go. You need your freedom back and not be chained by the things of your past. Free for someone who can love you more than you could ever imagine. You don’t want to lose out on something good over something that went bad and you had no control over it. Don’t ruin your life. no man or woman is worth that. YOU are worth more than that…..Carol Guajardo