It’s imperative that we don’t get too comfortable in our relationships. The feelings we had when we were dating are the feelings we want to continue feeling throughout our relationship. We have to keep dating. Don’t stop just because you are officially together and then end up taking each other for granted. We all share some of the same needs. We want to feel wanted. We want to feel desired. We want to be respected. We have to work at keeping our relationship exciting. Don’t let it get boring. Do little things each day to remind your partner how much they mean to you. Surprise your partner with something you know they love.
We have to learn to understand our partners needs, so there are no misunderstandings. Don’t be afraid to communicate to your partner about the things that mean the most to you in your relationship. We are not always going to understand our partner unless we talk to them in a loving manner. We are not mind readers. Don’t always expect them to know what you need. Don’t wait until you feel neglected and then become resentful. Communication at that point is much more difficult because you have more of a tendency to speak out of anger. Always keep on top of your feelings. Work together from the start and always be open and honest about your feelings. Don’t stop the things you were doing for each other while you were dating. Keep dating….Carol Guajardo