All of our past hurts are lessons.Sometimes we do have to go back and remember those times to understand the lesson we needed learn from it. I always tried to forget those hurtful times in my life, but then I realized I had to figure out where I may have gone wrong.
I needed to learn the lesson to help me move on.Once I stopped blaming myself and others, I was able to take a good look at me and how I could be better for someone else.One ‘rule of thumb’ that I had read about, was that after a divorce or breakup you should refrain from dating for at least a couple years. At first I thought that was a bit extreme. But I did realize it takes time to heal. It takes time to change things about yourself that may need to be changed for you to be a better person. You need to be rid of all the baggage from your past. Otherwise, you are vulnerable to making the same mistake and thinking someone else can heal you. You don’t use another relationship to get over someone else. Why would you want to be with someone who is still thinking of someone else and comparing you to them….I sure don’t. It may not take a person 2 years to heal, but it’s always better to be over someone else before you date someone new. Don’t use them to ease your pain…Carol Guajardo